#13: The Shit You’re Going Through? It’s Part of the Plan, Babe.
There’s nothing quite like life kicking you square in the ass to make you wonder if the Universe is personally targeting you.
Spoiler alert: it’s not. (At least, not in the way you think.) You’re not being punished. You’re being prepared. Every "no," every heartbreak, every “what the actual f*ck” moment — it’s all part of the messy, brilliant masterpiece that’s unfolding just for you. You’re not being rejected; you're being rerouted to something better you can't even imagine yet.
And here’s where the real glow-up happens: mastering detachment.
Detachment doesn’t mean you stop giving a damn about your dreams. It means you stop clinging so tight that you strangle the magic. It means holding your goals lightly — trusting that if it’s meant for you, it’s already on its way. And if it’s not? Baby, it's because there’s something even bigger, better, and badder with your name on it.
When you detach from the outcome and still move like it’s already yours, that’s when manifestation gets spicy. You align your actions with your vision, but you release the timeline, the method, the obsessing. You stop micromanaging the Universe. (She’s got a plan way hotter than yours, anyway.)
This week, we’re embracing the chaos, surrendering the timelines, channeling our inner serenity prayer warriors, and getting real about how to ride the sh*tstorm with style — and maybe even a little swagger.
1. Rejection Is Redirection (Even If It Feels Like Rejection is Just... Rejection)
You ever had a toddler refuse the snack they begged for five minutes ago? Rejection is in your daily mom life already, queen. And guess what? Just like your kids don’t know what’s good for them half the time, sometimes you don’t either.
When a door slams in your face, it’s not a cosmic “f*ck you.” It’s a "not this, babe. I’ve got something better." If you can detach from the heartbreak and trust the reroute, you’re already halfway to your next miracle.
Maybe that job, that person, that opportunity wasn’t meant for the badass version of you that's still becoming.
Sometimes the Universe snatches the wrong sh*t out of your hands to make space for the right stuff later.
5 Ways to Lean Into the Redirect:
Ask Yourself, "What Did I Actually Want/Need From This?" — Sometimes you’ll realize you were chasing a feeling, not a thing. (Security, money, validation, the idea of love, escape, etc.)
Play the 'Better' Game — Write down three ways something better could come from this rejection. Force your brain to see the possibilities.
Create a New Focus Point — Instead of stewing, pivot. Pick ONE thing you can get excited about working toward right now.
Mom-Example It — Teach your kids by showing them how you handle rejection. (“We’re flexible. We pivot. We keep it moving.”)
Manifest Like You Mean It — When something falls apart, don’t shrink. Double down on your vision. Visualize the bigger, better version without clinging to how you’ll get there.
2. The Ruts Are Real — But They Aren't Permanent
Stuck? Overwhelmed? Want to burn it all down and live in a yurt somewhere? Congratulations, you're human and that’s usually when the magic starts cooking. Getting into a rut doesn’t mean you’re broken — it means your system needs a reset. Like your Wi-Fi when it’s acting stupid.
Motherhood especially can feel like a Groundhog Day loop of laundry, snacks, appointments, and existential dread. But ruts aren't proof you suck — they're invitations to shift, grow, and (as Ross famously states:) PIVOT.
You don’t fix a rut by bullying yourself out of it. You move through it by adding little jolts of change.
5 Ways to Jolt Out of a Rut:
Micro-Move Your Ass — Move one thing: clean a drawer, send an email, take a walk. Small shifts cause bigger ripples.
Romanticize Your Damn Life — Make your Tuesday coffee feel like a Parisian café moment. Find your “casual magic” as Unjaded Jade coined.
Change Your Scenery — Work in a different room, take a new route home, rearrange furniture. Your brain needs novelty to wake up.
Mommy Date Yourself — Steal 30 minutes to romanticize your damn coffee, Target run, or Netflix binge. Main character energy, even if there's Goldfish crumbs on your leggings.
Manifest Playfully — Write a “What If It All Works Out?” list. Get wild with it. Make your brain practice believing good sh*t is coming.
Journal It All Out — Grab a journal, piece of paper, an envelope from your junk mail pile and just write out what’s making you feel like your in such a rut and try to find the exact reason that put you there and work it out until you’ve solved it. (cue “What’s New Scooby Do? theme song)
3. Everything Really Does Happen For a Reason (It’s Just a Bitch to See It at First)
I know, I know — when someone chirps “everything happens for a reason” while you’re sobbing into a Costco-sized bottle of wine, you want to throat punch them. But hindsight really is undefeated. The connections you can't see now will light up later like the damn Vegas strip.
I mean, there’s nothing more humbling than realizing half the detours in your life were less “tragedy” and more “forced intermission.”
Especially in motherhood, the setbacks and "fails" can feel brutal — but often they're the Universe’s way of dragging you out of burnout, forcing you to grow, or simply slamming the brakes before you drove yourself into a bigger mess.
5 Ways to Trust the Process (When You’d Rather Throw Hands):
Catalog Your 'Portfolio of Proof' (thank you Tam Kaur) — Make a list of crappy things that led to better things. (Exes, jobs, apartments, events, trying new things, friendships — dig deep.)
Talk to Future You — Picture yourself six months from now. What would she tell you about why this moment mattered?
Adopt the 24-Hour Rule — When a new dumpster fire hits, give yourself 24 hours to react — then start asking what it’s teaching you/what you can learn from it.
Manifest from Gratitude, Not Desperation — Instead of praying like you’re drowning, manifest from "I already know I'm cared for" energy. Or “everything that wants me, wants me tenfold.”
Teach the Lesson, Don’t Carry the Scar — Show your kids how to find meaning in messes — without becoming bitter or jaded.
4. Control What You Can, Surrender the Rest (AKA, Stop Trying to Play God, Sis)
You can’t strong-arm life into obeying your timeline. You just can’t. The more you try to force, the more miserable you get.
The key is controlling the inputs — your attitude, your actions, your reactions — and releasing the death grip on the outcome.
Clutching every outcome with a death grip only sets you up for disappointment. This is where mastering detachment comes into play.
Detachment isn’t laziness, vanity, rude, mean or disrespectful. It’s trust. It’s you detaching from what no longer serves you, letting go of how others opinions, actions and words make you feel, and how to not give a fuck about what anyone thinks of you. Detaching means to trust in the process that what is meant for you, is on your way to you and will come to you in divine timing.
You do your part — you show up, you hustle, you love with every cell in your damn body — but you stop white-knuckling things you cannot control. (Spoiler: that includes your child’s mood swings, your baby daddy not sticking to his word, the job offer, and the weird ghosting from that friend.)
5 Ways to Surrender & Detach:
Focus On Daily "Wins" — Did you drink your water? Send that email? Text your mom back? Worry about what serves you.
Mantra Your Mindset — Try: "I am doing my part, and that’s enough today." Or “I trust that what’s meant for me, will not miss me.”
Build Your Faith Muscle — You don’t need to believe fully yet — you just need to practice trusting that something good is on its way.
Set the Intention, Release the Method — Want the promotion? The peaceful morning? Set the goal. Then stop obsessing over how it’s gonna happen and let the universe take the wheel.
Catch and Release — When anxiety tries to grip you, picture handing it to the Universe like an old purse you don’t want anymore. “Not mine to carry.”
Recap:
Rejection Is Redirection — It's not a no, it's a not-yet-for-you.
The Ruts Are Real — But tiny shifts can start the avalanche.
Everything Happens For a Reason — Even if that reason shows up late and drunk.
Control What You Can, Surrender the Rest — You're not the puppet master of the Universe (and thank God, because you'd be exhausted).
You’re not lost, babe — you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
You’re not failing — you’re figuring it out, one beautiful mess at a time.
You’re not broken — you’re breaking through.
Every setback, every rejection, every tear-you-up-inside moment is not the end of your story — it’s a plot twist. A cosmic reroute. Proof that you’re alive, you're learning, you're stretching into the woman and the mother you’re meant to become.
You are not stuck — you’re in process.
You are not falling apart — you’re in progress.
You are not forgotten — you’re in purpose.
Trust the detours. Let the chaos teach you. Laugh at the ridiculousness of it all.
Detach from the timelines and the "should-have-beens."
Hold the vision loosely but fiercely — like the badass goddess-mama you are.
Keep going. Keep believing. Keep becoming.
The masterpiece isn’t finished yet — and you, my love, are just getting started.
If you found this post helpful, be sure to check out my other tips on self-care for busy moms, or browse my full collection of motherhood hacks to make life a little easier! Thank you so much for reading, remember to follow me on all my socials and don’t forget to subscribe to my website to be the first to read my weekly blog.
If no one told you today, you are an amazing mom and I see you. You wouldn’t be reading this blog if you weren’t and I am SO proud of you. Keep loving yourself too, mama.
With Love, Caitlin Nichols
